Your children have probably grown up with you and their other parent in the same home. You can imagine how much of a shock it will be to learn that the parents they have grown up in the same home with are getting a divorce. Some children will act out in a negative manner when this news is broken to them. As hard as this is to take, you should prepare yourself for the possibility.
We understand that your life is in turmoil right now. You might not be sure what to do or where to turn. One of the most important things that you can do right now is to take the time to think about what your children need and what you can do to make the transition easier.
You and your ex need to determine what type of custody arrangement you are going to use for your children. You might choose parallel parenting where each home has its own set of rules that don't depend on what the other parent does. You might want to co-parent, which occurs when you and your ex work together to come up with rules and guidelines for raising your children. In a co-parenting relationship, you and your ex would likely spend important days like holiday and game days together with your children.
There isn't any easy answer to child custody questions. We need to make sure that your child's best interests are kept at the heart of the matter. You can count on us to help you learn the options for each decision that you have to make. From there, we can take the necessary steps to get the matters sorted out so that you and your children can settle into the new way of life.