When you don’t have your child with you all the time, you might be tempted to try to build activities into every second you do get with them so that you can make memories. While this is a good thought, you and your children will need some bonding time that doesn’t involve always going out and doing things. We know that it can be hard to figure out what to do when your children are with you, so think about these suggestions.
First, make sure that you are leaving time for your children to speak to you. Having heart-to-heart talks gives you a chance to gauge how your kids are adjusting to the situation. It also lets them know that they can always feel free to discuss things with you. Make sure that you are actively listening and ready to offer support when necessary.
Second, plan for quiet nights at home. These are sometimes the best memories the kids will have. You might decide to read a book as a family or maybe watch a movie. A family game night or an evening cooking together can be beneficial to the kids and you. These nights might become traditions and can give the children a chance to relax and refocus.
Third, encourage them to enjoy their entire family. This includes extended family members and even your ex. They need to know that you don’t expect them to have their entire focus on you.
Being able to plan your days with the kids is important, so make sure that you have the schedule in the parenting plan. You can refer to it when you are trying to decide how you will spend the time you have with them. We can help you get these terms set so you have parenting time.