The first holiday season after your divorce is going to be a challenge for you. This isn’t necessarily because you want to be married again, but it is likely because you aren’t accustomed to being by yourself during this busy time of the year.
With Halloween just around the corner, now is the time to start thinking about what you are going to do for the rest of the year. One of the first things that you have to do is take a look at the major dates of the year. What are you doing for Halloween, Thanksgiving, Christmas and New Year’s Day? If you have traditionally spent those days with your ex’s family, you need to look into what’s going on in your life for them.
If you have children, you need to find out when they will be at which home. You can make some of your plans around when you will have them. If they won’t be with you on all the major days, determine when you can celebrate the holidays with them. For example, celebrating Christmas on the day after the holiday could mean that you can start a fun tradition of going to shop the after Christmas sales together.
You might find that doing things with your family helps fill the void you feel during this time. Being around couples or doing things that you always did with your ex could make you more miserable.
No matter what you choose to do, always make sure that you have a way out. You might become overwhelmed with emotion during this first holiday season since the end of your marriage. Being able to back away and take some time to yourself might help you greatly. Sometimes, addressing the emotions you feel is the best holiday gift you could give yourself.