Breaking the news to your kids that you and their other parent are getting a divorce can be one of the most difficult things you ever have to do. However, it doesn’t have to be so painful or traumatic if you follow these five tips.
Don’t make a big announcement
One of the worst things you can do is make a big announcement to your kids about your divorce. It will only scare and confuse them, and they won’t understand what’s going on. Instead, take some time to talk with them one-on-one about what’s happening and why.
Be honest with them
Telling your kids the truth is always the best course of action. You don’t need to go into great detail, but it’s important for them to know that their family is breaking up and why. This will help them healthily process the news.
Give them time to adjust
It’s important for your kids to have time to adjust to the news of your divorce. Don’t expect them to be okay with it overnight; it could take weeks or months for them to come to terms with what’s happening. Be patient and understanding during this time.
Keep their routines as normal as possible
Your kids need to have some sense of normalcy during times of chaos and change. Try to keep their routines as normal as possible by having them go to school, do their chores and participate in extracurricular activities.
Consider talking to their teachers and school counselors
It may be a good idea to talk with your kids’ teachers or school counselors about the divorce. They can keep an eye on your kids and make sure they’re doing okay at school while you focus on other things like moving, filing legal paperwork, etc.
Telling your kids about the divorce can be challenging, but it’s important for them to know what’s going on so that they can begin adjusting and healing from this difficult situation. Follow these tips, and you’ll be able to get through this challenging time with less stress or trauma for them.