Your mindset can have a big effect on your co-parenting relationship so make sure that you are always ready and willing to put forth the effort it takes to keep your mind right. One of the main things that you need to do is to avoid the all-or-nothing mindset that can make it hard for you to see that there might be a middle ground where you and your ex can meet.
When you are in the middle of a contentious issue, you might start to think that you have to win. This thinking could mean that you aren’t willing to negotiate because that means you wouldn’t get your way 100 percent. As you can imagine, the situation might be impossible to work through if neither party is willing to give any at all.
Your job as a parent is to do what is right for your children. Most of the time, the other parent has that same goal. The issue is that you and your ex might not have the same method or view about what is in your child’s best interests.
The times that you have to go up against your ex about matters you feel strongly about, you might have to take a step back. This gives you a chance to think about the possible resolutions without feeling stressed or rushed. It might help you to make lists about the pros and cons of each option. As long as your child’s safety isn’t being impacted, you might find that it is worth giving your ex’s idea a try.
Co-parenting isn’t an easy journey for any parent. Knowing your emotional reactions and being able to work through those for your child’s good might make the situation a little less contentious.
Source: Our Family Wizard, “Is All or Nothing Thinking Damaging Your Co-Parenting?,” accessed Feb. 23, 2018