The holiday season is here, and this can present a challenge for people who have recently divorced. If you have children, they are likely looking to you to find out what’s going to happen for the holidays. The good news is that now is the time that you can create the traditions that can serve you and your kids for many years to come.
Before you make any plans for the holiday, find out when the children will be with you. This information is in your child custody agreement, so read it carefully. You can then find things to do with them while they are with you. Remember, you can still celebrate holidays with them even if they aren’t with you on the actual day.
The key to this is to find things that the kids will enjoy doing with you so that you can plan on those same traditions each year. These don’t have to be expensive either. Spending time watching a Christmas movie on Christmas Eve or another day when they are with you can be special. Pop some popcorn, make hot cocoa and just enjoy an evening at home in your pajamas.
You aren’t bound by the traditions that you had when you were married unless you enjoyed those. You can find things that work with your new life now. You might find that there isn’t as much pressure now that you and the kids can do what feels right for the circumstances.
Because holidays are so important, parents should come up with a schedule for these days when they are working out the parenting plan. This takes the guesswork out of figuring out who will have the kids when.