Going through a divorce is a challenging situation for everyone involved. You have a lot to think about when you’re in this position. One of these is how to best support your children when they are trying to adjust to the new way of life. There are several things that you can do that might make the situation worse, so be sure to try to avoid these.
First, set the standards immediately when you are establishing a new routine. It is tempting to overindulge them, but this sets up expectations that aren’t realistic. Instead of letting them get away with behavior you don’t plan on allowing and trying to spend money on making them happy, show them love by providing consistency.
Second, watch what you say about your ex. Your children are listening to what you say and taking it to heart. Instead of focusing on the negatives about them, help your children see the good in the situation. This includes helping them realize the good things about your ex that make them a good parent.
Third, avoid arguing over trivial things. It doesn’t really matter who makes minor mistakes with the children. What’s important is that you try to make sure that the children still get what they need. Try to help be a solution for the problems instead of adding to the drama by having a negative attitude about everything.
Finally, make sure that you have the terms of the parenting plan set in the way that best suits the children. As they mature, you might have to modify the original plan to meet those new needs.