When you decide to file for divorce, you are starting a journey that can either set you up for success in the future or make your life unbearable. Working toward the former option should be your goal. There are several things that you can do to encourage this to happen as your marriage ends.
Your primary goal right now is protecting your own interests. Your ex might have helped with this while you were married, but this isn't going to happen now.
- Think about your emotional health. Even if you think that you can be friends with your ex, you need to take a step back right now. Let the friendship come gradually so that you can focus on the divorce.
- Set a plan for disagreements. You and your ex won't agree on everything. You need to decide how matters will be settled, especially if you have children together since that means you have many years of working together left.
- Remain respectful. Thinking of the divorce as a sort of business arrangement might benefit you because it is a reminder that respect is a must. Being rude or aggressive won't accomplish anything except making the situation more difficult and stressful.
- Consider your options. Throughout the divorce, you will have decisions to make. Think about how each one will affect you so that you are making choices that you feel are best for you.
Making sure that you are remaining in compliance with the law during the divorce is imperative. You also need to make sure that you aren't doing anything that will sabotage yourself. An experienced attorney can help.