Going through a divorce comes with a lot of challenges. You have to ensure that you aren’t falling for the common misconceptions that some people hold as truths when they go through a divorce and have children with their ex. Remembering that these aren’t true might help you as you work through these matters.
One of the most common things that come up in these cases is that people think they will be done with their ex when they divorce. If you share kids, you won’t be finished with your ex until the kids are grown and flown. Until then, you have to be ready to work with your ex on matters related to the offspring.
You might have to come to terms with attending some events with your ex. This includes things like school plays, extracurricular events, parent-teacher conferences, birthdays and graduations. Once they are grown, their wedding and the birth of their children might be joint events.
A divorce isn’t going to magically change the way you parent or that your ex parents. Your children also won’t magically change. Instead, everyone has to find their new normal so that they can begin to move forward with the new way of life.
Another thing to remember is that just because your ex was a bad spouse doesn’t mean that they are a bad parent. You might need to focus on how they interact with the children to help you adjust to the relationships that are developing.
You should ensure that everything you and your ex agree to is included in the parenting plan. This ensures that everyone knows what to expect.